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Why Choose a Humanist Wedding?

3/10/2026

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A humanist wedding ceremony is deeply personal and meaningful, reflecting a couple’s values, beliefs, and love story without religious elements. I find that people who choose a humanist wedding typically want:
1. A Personalized Ceremony That Actually Sounds Like Them
Couples choosing a humanist wedding usually want a ceremony where guests think, “Yes. That’s so them.”
A Humanist wedding is not a template nor is it a script that’s been dusted off 200 times this summer.
Our couples want their story told properly — how they met, what they love about each other, the quirks they tolerate, and the small, ordinary things that make their relationship work and make it special.
2. Inclusivity Without Awkward Footnotes
One of the things I like most about a humanist ceremony is that it welcomes everyone — religious relatives, atheist friends, spiritual-but-not-sure-what-that-means cousins — without anyone feeling left out or preached at.
It’s grounded in shared human values: love, commitment, kindness, partnership. No one has to translate the vows in their head or wonder if they missed a memo about standing, kneeling, or chanting.
3. Freedom (The Good Kind) and Flexibility
Couples want the freedom to shape the ceremony around what matters to them.
On a beach. In a forest. In a barn with excellent fairy lights.
There’s no requirement to include anything that doesn’t resonate. If they love tradition, they can include it. If they’d rather skip straight to the meaningful bits (and maybe the drinks reception), that’s fine too.
4. Vows That Aren’t Corporate
Humanist weddings are big on personal vows — promises that feel real rather than contractual.
Instead of lofty declarations that sound slightly borrowed from a 14th-century monarch, couples can promise things like:
  • To support each other’s dreams
  • To communicate honestly
  • To make tea when the other has had a terrible day
  • To continue pretending to like each other’s playlists
It’s romantic — just with a pulse.
5. A Focus on the Relationship (Not the Framework)
The heart of a humanist ceremony is the relationship itself. Not doctrine. Not obligation.
It’s about two people consciously choosing each other — which feels quietly powerful.
There’s something rather moving about saying, “We’re doing this because we want to,” rather than because tradition says so.
6. Symbolism That Means Something
Symbolic rituals are popular — handfasting, ring warming, unity candles, sharing wine — but only when they genuinely connect to the couple.
No symbolism for symbolism’s sake. If they’re tying a knot, it’s because it means something to them — not because someone once saw it on Pinterest and thought it looked photogenic.
7. Warmth Without Stiff Formality
Most couples want a ceremony that feels joyful, relaxed, and sincere.
A few tears. A few laughs. Ideally not at the wrong moment.
Humanist ceremonies often have an ease to them — guests feel involved rather than like they’re watching a performance from a polite distance.
8. A Celebrant Who Feels Human
People often choose a humanist ceremony because they want a celebrant who feels like a thoughtful host rather than a distant authority figure.
Someone who has taken time to know them.
Someone who can read the room.
Someone who won’t mispronounce their names after months of planning.

In short, what people want is simple but profound:
A ceremony that feels real. Personal. Thoughtful. Joyful.
And unmistakably theirs.
If you’re thinking about one for yourself, I can also help you shape it depending on whether you want heartfelt, playful, minimalist, or slightly chaotic in the best way.



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Eco-Friendly Food & Drink Wedding Trends for 2026: Deliciously Sustainable Celebrations

2/17/2026

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Weddings have always reflected the values of the couple — and in 2026, those values increasingly include sustainability, environmental awareness, and mindful consumption. From thoughtfully sourced ingredients to zero-waste beverage practices, eco-friendly food and drink trends are shaping memorable weddings that taste as good as they feel.
1. Locally Sourced, Seasonal Menus
Couples are moving away from generic banquets and toward menus that celebrate local and seasonal produce. By partnering with nearby farms, fisheries, and artisan producers, wedding planners are crafting menus that reduce food miles, support small producers, and highlight the freshest ingredients available in the region.
Seasonal menus not only taste better — with ingredients harvested at their peak — but they also align with regenerative farming practices that prioritize soil health and biodiversity. 
2. Plant-Forward Culinary Experiences
While meat often dominated traditional wedding feasts, plant-forward offerings are rising fast. In 2026, couples aren’t just offering a vegetarian option — they’re building entire menus that focus on vegetables, legumes, and innovative plant proteins.
Chefs are transforming plant-based cuisine into luxury dining — think truffle-infused mushroom risotto, beet carpaccio with cashew cheese, or smoked jackfruit tacos. These plant-centric menus are not only eco-conscious (reducing greenhouse gas emissions and land use) but they open up celebratory feasts that are as imaginative as they are beautiful. Ok, this is not for everyone but think about it!
3. Zero-Waste & Upcycled Food Practices
Zero-waste catering isn’t just about recycling — it’s about eliminating waste entirely. In 2026, wedding planners and caterers are designing menus with every part of an ingredient in mind. Root ends become broths, fruit skins become syrups, and day-after treats are thoughtfully repurposed into brunches or guest gifts.
Upcycled ingredients — like spent grain from breweries or fruit pulp from juice producers — are being incorporated creatively into bread, pastries, and cocktails. These practices help lower food waste, reduce landfill burden, and give ingredients a second life. Some fine dining restaurants are embracing these trends, so can you.
4. Ethical Proteins & Animal Welfare
When meat or seafood is part of the menu, couples increasingly choose ethically raised proteins. Pasture-raised poultry, sustainably caught fish, and humanely raised beef are becoming staples for conscious celebrations. Transparency is key: couples research suppliers, ask questions, and share their values with guests.
Seafood, in particular, is chosen with care, with menus often adhering to sustainable seafood guides that avoid overfished species, protect marine ecosystems, and promote responsible practices.
5. Sustainable Drink Stations & Low-Alcohol Bars
Eco-friendly trends extend beyond food into beverages. Traditional open bars are being replaced with curated, low-alcohol options like spritzes, botanical mocktails, and natural wines that contain fewer additives and require less intensive production methods.
Drink stations featuring personalized refillable glassware, compostable straws, and bespoke mixers made in small batches reduce plastic waste and offer unique tastings guests will remember. Local cider, craft beers, and estate wines not only cut down transportation emissions but also connect guests with regional flavors.
6. Meaningful & Mindful Guest Experiences
Finally, sustainability at weddings isn’t just a trend — it’s an experience. Couples are choosing edible favors like herb seedlings, honey jars from local apiaries, or reusable utensils and napkins that keep sustainability top of mind long after the last toast.
In 2026, eco-friendly food and drink trends aren’t just about being green — they’re about celebrating love with intentionality, flavor, and respect for the planet.

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Blooming Beautiful: Eco-Friendly Floral Wedding Trends for 2026

1/6/2026

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In 2026, wedding flowers are doing more than looking pretty — they’re also quietly saving the planet (no cape required). As couples continue to prioritize sustainability, eco-friendly floral design has gone from niche to must-have. The good news? Going green has never looked so good.
Leading the charge is the move toward locally grown, seasonal flowers. Instead of jet-setting roses flown across continents, couples are embracing blooms that grow naturally nearby. These flowers are fresher, more affordable, and don’t rack up frequent-flyer miles before reaching the altar. Think garden roses, sweet peas, dahlias, and wildflowers that look effortlessly romantic — because they kind of are.
Another growing trend is the use of organic, chemical-free flowers. More couples are asking florists about pesticide use and opting for blooms grown without synthetic chemicals. Not only is this better for pollinators and soil health, but it also means your wedding flowers won’t be the most toxic guests at the party.
Potted plants are also having a big moment in 2026. Instead of traditional cut arrangements, couples are choosing herbs, succulents, and small flowering plants for centerpieces and ceremony décor. These living arrangements can be replanted after the wedding or sent home with guests — because nothing says “thank you for coming” like a rosemary plant that won’t wilt by morning.
Sustainability also shows up in how flowers are used throughout the day. Repurposing floral designs is now standard practice. Ceremony arrangements are whisked away and transformed into reception décor, aisle markers become table accents, and floral arches pull double duty as photo backdrops. It’s efficient, elegant, and gives flowers the chance to shine longer than one walk down the aisle.
Colour palettes in 2026 lean toward soft, nature-inspired tones — muted greens, warm neutrals, terracotta, and creamy whites. These hues pair perfectly with dried and preserved flowers, which remain popular for their texture, longevity, and ability to survive long after the dance floor clears.
Ultimately, eco-friendly floral trends prove that sustainability doesn’t mean sacrificing style. In 2026, couples are choosing flowers that reflect their values — and creating weddings that are beautiful, meaningful, and a little kinder to the planet (Mother Nature approves).

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Fun Ways to Incorporate Your Dog Into Your Wedding

12/2/2025

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For many couples, a wedding wouldn’t feel complete without their four-legged family member. If your dog has been with you through dating, long nights of planning, and all of life’s milestones, bringing them into your celebration can make the day even more meaningful. Here are some fun, heartwarming ways to weave your pup into your wedding festivities.
1. Make Them Part of the Ceremony
One of the most popular roles is having your dog walk down the aisle as a ring bearer or flower pup. You can attach faux rings to their collar or have them trot down with a small floral arrangement. This not only adds joy to the ceremony but also guarantees some unforgettable photos.
2. Include Them in Your Wedding Portraits
Your dog doesn’t have to be part of the full event to make an appearance. If your pup gets easily overwhelmed, schedule a quick photo session before or after the ceremony. Whether it’s candid snuggles or a posed family shot, these images will be priceless.
3. Give a Nod Through Décor
If your venue isn’t pet-friendly, you can still honor your pup creatively. Add subtle dog-themed elements like custom cocktail napkins, table numbers named after your dog’s favorite spots, or illustrated signage featuring their adorable face.
4. Let Them Join the Reception Fun
If your dog is social and comfortable around crowds, let them make a cameo at the reception. You can outfit them in a cute bandana or floral collar and let them mingle with guests—just be sure there’s a quiet retreat space if they need a break.
Hire a Dog Attendant for the Day
For peace of mind, consider hiring a professional dog attendant. These specialists handle everything—transportation, feeding, walks, potty breaks, and supervising your pup throughout the event. They ensure your dog stays comfortable, happy, and safe so you can fully enjoy your wedding without worrying about pet logistics. It’s the perfect solution for couples who want their dog present without added stress.

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The 2026 Supper Club Wedding Trend

11/20/2025

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Why Couples Are Ditching Banquets for Intimate Dining
Weddings in 2026 are ushering in a bold shift — one that favours curated culinary theatre over traditional banquet halls. At the heart of this transformation? The supper-club wedding, an intimate, chef-led, dining-focused celebration that’s part dinner party, part luxury gastronomic experience.
What Is a Supper-Club Wedding?Rather than a massive formal dinner, supper-club weddings feel more like exclusive dinner parties. Imagine lounge-style seating, long serpentine tables, dim candlelight, and elevated culinary stations where chefs finish dishes in front of guests. According to wedding trend forecasters, this style embraces “editorial-style plating” and a “progressive supper club dining” experience.  
Why It’s Trending in 2026
  1. More Intimacy, More Experience
    Couples are increasingly prioritising guest experience. With smaller guest lists and multi-day celebrations, the supper-club format allows for deeper connection. 
  2. Culinary as Centrepiece
    In 2026, food isn’t just sustenance — it’s entertainment. Couples are opting for tasting menus, chef stations, and plated courses that tell a story. Some even blend global flavours with local, sustainable sourcing. 
  3. Intimate & Immersive Design
    The supper-club aesthetic leans into atmospheric design: soft draping, sculptural florals, moody lighting, and vintage glassware. It’s less about pomp and more about craft, comfort, and personality. 
  4. Sustainability Meets Luxury
    As eco-conscious weddings grow, the supper-club model plays perfectly into low-waste, high-design celebrations. Locally sourced menus, zero-waste catering practices, and reusable décor are all more achievable in this format. 
  5. Guest Engagement Elevated
    Rather than sitting through long-form formalities, guests mingle, taste, and interact. Designer-led experiences, such as live plating, wine-pairing stations, and even themed late-night snack rituals, create theatre. 
The Vibe: A Private Club for a NightSupper-club weddings feel effortlessly stylish — like something from a private members’ lounge rather than a ballroom. With lounge seating, curated playlists, and sophisticated cocktails (or mocktails), the atmosphere is warm, connected, and intentionally designed. The setup encourages guests to linger, talk, and truly taste every part of the evening.
How to Plan One
  • Choose vendors who specialise in tasting menus, chef stations or interactive catering.
  • Design your space thoughtfully — think serpentine tables, draped fabrics, layered lighting.
  • Craft a flow that feels like a dinner party: arrival drinks, multi-course dining, a few surprise stations, then lounge-style bites.
  • Prioritise sustainability: local ingredients, reusable serviceware, and creative ways to reduce waste make supper-club weddings feel as conscientious as they do elevated.

If you’re a couple who loves food, connection, and a relaxed but sophisticated vibe — the 2026 supper-club wedding might just be your perfect way to celebrate.
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The Right Celebrant Equals Micro Wedding Magic!

11/16/2025

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The Mighty Micro Wedding: Why the Right Celebrant is the Secret Ingredient
Big weddings are a bit like blockbuster movies: all drama, huge budgets, and at least one relative who insists on stealing the spotlight. Micro weddings, on the other hand, are more like indie films—thoughtful, intimate, with just the right touch of quirk. They’re the perfectly portioned wedding soufflé: small, elegant, and far less likely to collapse under pressure.
But here’s the thing about micro weddings: when you shrink the scale, every detail gets magnified. That dreamy artisanal cake? Everyone notices if it tastes like cardboard. That playlist you spent three days curating? It’s obvious if it loops after 12 songs. And most importantly—the celebrant. Because when you’ve got just 20 people in a garden, your celebrant isn’t background noise. They’re front and center. Think less “anonymous officiant” and more “wedding co-star.”
Why Celebrants Matter More in Micro Weddings
In a ballroom filled with 200 guests, Uncle Bob can zone out halfway through the vows and no one bats an eyelid. In a micro wedding, if your celebrant drones on in monotone about “the sanctity of union,” everyone notices—and probably contemplates sneaking off for another canapé.
The right celebrant, though? They set the tone, break the ice, and make sure the ceremony feels like you. They’re not just there to say, “You may kiss the bride/groom/partner.” They’re there to weave your quirks, love story, and inside jokes into something memorable. In fact, in a micro wedding, they practically are the vibe curator.
The Wrong Celebrant: A Cautionary Tale
Picture this: you’ve planned the perfect micro wedding. Handmade vows, wildflowers everywhere, and your dog is the ring bearer. But then you hire a celebrant who treats it like a tax seminar. Suddenly, your intimate dream is giving “Tuesday morning at the DMV”vibes.  Your guests start counting ceiling beams, and even your dog looks bored. The wrong celebrant can turn “micro” into “meh.”
The Right Celebrant: Pure Magic
Now flip the script. The celebrant arrives, warm smile, a twinkle of mischief in their eye. They know your story (even that disastrous first date at the all-you-can-eat ribs place). They make Aunt Margaret chuckle, calm your pre-ceremony jitters, and deliver words that leave everyone feeling like they were part of something sacred and fun. Suddenly, your micro wedding feels grand—not in size, but in heart.
Celebrants as Ceremony Architects
Think of your celebrant as part storyteller, part MC, part stand-up comic, and part therapist. They’re the ones who transform the ceremony from “we’re legally married now” into “this was one of the best half hours of my life.” When the guest list is short, their role isn’t diluted—it’s amplified.
So, if you’re planning a micro wedding, don’t leave the celebrant choice as an afterthought. They’re not just there to get the paperwork signed. They’re the glue, the sparkle, and the reason why your 25 guests will be talking about your ceremony long after the cake is gone.
Because let’s be honest—micro weddings may be small, but the right celebrant? That’s one very big deal.





















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Sweetie, Let's Have an Elopemoon!

11/9/2025

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​The Ultimate Guide to an Elopemoon: Combining Your Elopement and Honeymoon for the Perfect Intimate Escape
When it comes to celebrating love, couples are finding new and unique ways to make their special day unforgettable. One trend that has been steadily growing in popularity is the Elopemoon—a seamless combination of an elopement and honeymoon. This modern twist on wedding traditions allows couples to exchange vows in a dream destination and immediately begin their honeymoon in the same breathtaking location.
If you and your partner are seeking an intimate, stress-free, and adventure-filled wedding experience, an Elopemoon might be the perfect choice for you. In this ultimate guide, I’ll walk you through what you need to know to plan the Elopemoon of your dreams.

Why Choose an Elopemoon?
1. Intimacy and Romance
One of the biggest draws of an Elopemoon is the opportunity for complete privacy and romance. Unlike traditional weddings, which often come with guest lists and family expectations, an Elopemoon focuses solely on the couple’s love story. You and your partner can share an intimate ceremony without distractions, allowing you to truly soak in the magic of the moment.
2. Cost-Effective
Traditional weddings can be costly, with expenses quickly adding up for venues, catering, decor, and entertainment. An Elopemoon eliminates the need for many of these expenses, allowing couples to invest in an unforgettable travel experience instead. Many couples find that they can allocate their wedding budget toward luxurious accommodations, fine dining, unique experiences and breathtaking photographs rather than a single-day event overwhelmed with too many people.
3. Adventure and Exploration
For couples who love to travel, an Elopemoon provides the ultimate adventure. Whether you dream of exchanging vows on a secluded beach, atop a scenic mountain, or in a historic European city, the world is your wedding venue. After saying “I do,” you can immediately transition into your honeymoon, exploring a new culture, indulging in local cuisine, and making incredible memories together.
4. Stress-Free Planning
Elopements tend to be far less stressful to plan than traditional weddings. Without the pressure of accommodating hundreds of guests, managing a large budget, or organizing extensive logistics, couples can focus on what truly matters—each other. Many destinations and resorts even offer elopement packages that include photography, florals, and accommodations, making the planning process a breeze.

Choosing the Perfect Elopemoon Destination
When selecting a destination for your Elopemoon, consider the type of experience you and your partner desire with or without a few special people tagging along. Here are a few incredible destination ideas:
1. Tropical Paradise
If you envision a barefoot ceremony on the sand followed by cocktails at sunset, a tropical Elopemoon might be the perfect fit. Popular tropical destinations include:
  • Bali, Indonesia – Lush landscapes, serene beaches, and stunning temples create a perfect setting.
  • Hawaii, USA – With its diverse islands, Hawaii offers everything from waterfalls to black sand beaches.
  • Maldives – Overwater bungalows and crystal-clear waters provide the ultimate honeymoon luxury.
2. Mountainous Escape
For adventurous couples who love hiking, breathtaking views, and cozying up by a fire, a mountain Elopemoon is ideal. Consider destinations like:
  • Banff, Canada – Stunning glacier lakes and rugged mountains create a jaw-dropping ceremony backdrop.
  • Swiss Alps, Switzerland – Snow-capped peaks and charming villages make for a fairy-tale elopement.
  • Colorado, USA – Rocky Mountain National Park offers incredible scenery and intimate ceremony spots.
3. European Romance
If you’re dreaming of a historic and culture-filled Elopemoon, a European destination might be the perfect choice. Consider:
  • Tuscany, Italy – Rolling vineyards and picturesque villas set a dreamy stage for romance.
  • Santorini, Greece – White-washed buildings and endless Aegean Sea views provide an enchanting atmosphere.
  • Paris, France – The City of Love offers iconic landmarks, charming streets, and exquisite cuisine.
4. Desert Beauty
For a unique and breathtaking experience, a desert Elopemoon offers striking landscapes and magical sunsets. Some stunning desert destinations include:
  • Sedona, Arizona – Red rock formations and serene energy make for a mystical setting.
  • Marrakech, Morocco – Vibrant markets and luxurious riads add an exotic flair to your elopement.
  • Dubai, UAE – A mix of modern luxury and vast desert landscapes provides a unique contrast.

Planning Your Elopemoon
1. Legal Considerations
Before booking your trip, research the marriage laws in your chosen destination. Some locations require specific documentation, residency periods, or translations of legal papers. If legal marriage isn’t feasible, many couples choose to have a symbolic ceremony abroad and complete the legal process in their home country.
2. Hiring a Photographer and Videographer
Since you won’t have a large guest list to document your special day, hiring a professional photographer and/or videographer is crucial. Many destinations have talented professionals who specialize in elopements and can capture your love story beautifully.
3. Booking Accommodations and Experiences
Look for hotels, resorts, or Airbnbs that offer romance packages or cater to honeymooners. Consider booking unique experiences like:
  • Private candlelit dinners
  • Couples’ spa treatments
  • Hot air balloon rides
  • Private yacht excursions
4. Packing Essentials
For an Elopemoon, packing light and smart is key. Be sure to include:
  • Your wedding attire (consider wrinkle-free fabrics for travel ease)
  • Important documents (passports, marriage license, travel insurance)
  • A portable steamer for outfit touch-ups
  • Comfortable yet stylish outfits for your honeymoon adventures

Making the Most of Your Elopemoon
1. Savor the Moment
Since an Elopemoon is all about intimacy and adventure, take time to soak in every special moment. Whether it’s the quiet sunrise before your vows or the first toast as newlyweds, cherish every second.
2. Keep Loved Ones Included (If Desired)
While an Elopemoon is private, you can still involve your family and friends in meaningful ways. Bring along a handful of nearest and dearest to be with before the ceremony but send them home shortly after so you two can have a proper honeymoon! Also consider live-streaming your ceremony, sending personalized postcards, or hosting a cool low-key post-elopement “Happily Ever After” celebration at your favorite pub when you return home.
3. Capture the Magic
In addition to professional photography, keep a travel journal or create a scrapbook to remember your special journey. Small mementos like pressed flowers, ticket stubs, or handwritten vows can make beautiful keepsakes.
4. Embrace the Unexpected
Traveling always comes with surprises—weather changes, unexpected detours, or cultural differences. Approach your Elopemoon with an open heart and a sense of adventure, knowing that the best memories often come from the unplanned moments.

Conclusion
An Elopemoon is a perfect way to celebrate your love in a deeply personal and unforgettable way. By combining your wedding and honeymoon into one seamless experience, you can create lifelong memories while embracing adventure, romance, and intimacy with just the two of you or with a few select loved ones. Whether you choose a tropical island, a mountain retreat, or a European city, the world is your canvas—ready to paint your love story.
So, if you're looking for a wedding experience that prioritizes romance, simplicity, and wanderlust, an Elopemoon might just be the perfect start to your happily ever after.



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I Do… Again: The Quirky Charm of Vow Renewal Ceremonies

11/4/2025

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Some people celebrate anniversaries with a romantic dinner. Others splurge on a weekend getaway. And then there are those who say, “Honey, let’s rent a beach house, hire a string quartet, and promise to love each other all over again in front of friends, family, and an open bar and party like we couldn’t afford to when we were younger.” That’s right—I’m talking about vow renewal ceremonies.
At first glance, vow renewals might seem redundant. After all, you already said “I do,” so why repeat yourself? But here’s the thing: marriage is a journey. Sometimes it’s a smooth ride with champagne in the backseat. Sometimes it’s like sharing a canoe with a raccoon—unexpected, messy, and a little bitey. A vow renewal is essentially a pit stop where couples say, “Yes, we survived. And somehow, I still want to share my life with you.”
Celebrities, of course, take vow renewals to the next level. Heidi Klum and Seal famously renewed their vows every single year during their marriage—each ceremony with a different theme. One year it was white trash (their words, not mine), another year it was masquerade. It was less about “’til death do us part” and more about “’til next year’s costume change.” Meanwhile, Beyoncé and Jay-Z reportedly renewed their vows quietly in 2018, proving that not every celebrity celebration requires sequins and synchronized fireworks over the Eiffel Tower.
For us non-celeb folks, vow renewals don’t have to be extravagant. They can be as simple as standing in the backyard, holding hands, and trying not to laugh when the dog decides the ceremony is the perfect time to chase the neighbor’s pesky cat. In fact, the beauty of vow renewals lies in their flexibility. No rules, no pressure—just a chance to look at your partner and say, “I’d still swipe right.”
There’s also the added benefit of getting a do-over. Maybe your original wedding was a blur of stress, crying flower girls, and a DJ who thought “Cotton Eye Joe” was romantic. A vow renewal lets you rewrite the script. Want to walk down the aisle in Converse sneakers this time? Do it. Want to have your kids dance you down the aisle, why not! Want to have that build your own sundae bar Mom nixed the first time around, yes please! This time, just go for it!
And let’s be honest, the reception is half the fun. Cake tastes even better when it comes with decades of inside jokes. Champagne feels bubblier when you’re toasting survival through IKEA furniture assembly. And the dance floor? Well, after years together, no one cares if your moves look less like “Strictly” and more like “Dad at a barbecue.”
So, whether you’re planning a grand destination bash worthy of a People magazine spread or an intimate gathering at your favorite diner, vow renewals are a joyful reminder that love isn’t a one-time contract—it’s a renewable subscription. And a vow renewal tells the world, “We really did make the right choice.”
To sum it up: vow renewals are less about repeating your vows and more about celebrating the fact that you still want to repeat them. After all, anyone can say “I do” once. But saying it again—after years of bills, in-laws, and duvet wars—that’s real romance.
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Your Day, Your Way: What the October 2025 Announcement Means for Humanist Weddings

10/15/2025

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Dear couples,
If you’ve ever dreamed of a wedding ceremony that truly reflects who you are — your values, your humour, your love story — then the news from 2 October 2025 is worth celebrating.
On that day, the UK Government announced its intention to give legal recognition to humanist weddings in England and Wales. For the first time, it’s not just campaigners or celebrants talking about it — the Government itself has said: this should happen.
As someone who’s spent time standing beside couples like you, creating ceremonies full of laughter, tears, poetry, and promises, I can tell you, this is the moment we’ve been waiting for.


So, what has actually changed?
Right now, nothing legal has changed — yet. You still need a civil ceremony with a registrar to make your marriage legally binding in England or Wales. But this announcement means the Government intends to change that.
Here’s what they’ve promised:
  • Humanist weddings will become legally recognised for the first time.
  • The whole marriage system will move away from “licensed venues” to a system based on licensed officiants, meaning the person who marries you — not the building — will hold the authority.
  • You’ll have more freedom to choose your location: beaches, gardens, castles, forests… the focus will be on meaning and safety, not red tape.
  • A formal consultation in early 2026 will shape the details before legislation is introduced later that year.
The Justice Secretary called it “the biggest reform to wedding law in more than a century.” And while it’s still a little way off, it’s now government policy — not just a hopeful dream.


What this means for you right now
If you’re planning a wedding soon, this announcement doesn’t change the current legal steps. You’ll still need a civil registration alongside your humanist ceremony. But emotionally and practically, it means that:
  • Your choice is being heard. For years, couples like you have told stories, written to MPs, and shared why humanist weddings matter. This announcement is recognition that those voices count.
  • Change is finally in sight. The Government could have stayed silent. Instead, it’s confirmed its commitment to equality for non-religious couples.
  • Planning your ceremony can now be done with real optimism. If your date is a year or two away, keep an eye on the new rules — they might come into effect just in time for you to be among the first legally recognised humanist weddings.


Why this matters so much
For many of you, your humanist ceremony is the “real” wedding — the one that feels authentic, personal, and full of meaning. You write your own vows, choose readings that speak to you, include family or friends in ways that reflect your story. It’s not a script, it’s a reflection.
And yet, until now, you’ve had to do it twice: one ceremony to satisfy the law, and one to satisfy your hearts. It’s always struck me as unfair that couples marrying in a church or mosque have their ceremony recognised by law, while non-religious couples do not.
This announcement is about equality. It says that what you believe — or don’t believe — should never affect how your love is honoured or validated by the state.


What happens next
The Government’s plan is to consult widely in early 2026 — with celebrants, registrars, venues, and couples — to make sure the new system works smoothly. After that, they’ll bring forward legislation to make humanist ceremonies legally binding.
Humanists UK, who’ve led this campaign for decades, are still urging the Government to act faster — perhaps by using powers it already has under the 2013 Marriage Act to make humanist weddings legal even before the full reform.
Either way, the message is clear: change is coming. And as a celebrant, I’m already preparing — ensuring I meet the professional and ethical standards that will come with legal recognition.


What you can do
  • Stay informed. Humanists UK will keep updating their website as things develop, and your celebrant can explain what’s legally required for your date.
  • Share your story. Real couples’ experiences are helping shape this change — your voice matters.
  • Plan your ceremony the way you want it. Whether the law catches up this year or next, your ceremony will still be the moment that feels most true to your partnership.


A final word from me
This announcement is a promise — a promise that soon, the ceremony that captures your laughter, your vows, your meaning, will finally count in the eyes of the law.
When that day comes, you’ll stand before each other and say “I do,” knowing that your words carry both emotional and legal weight. One ceremony, one moment, one love — recognised in every sense.
Until then, I’ll keep crafting ceremonies full of truth and joy, and I’ll be ready for the day I can finally say:
“By the power vested in me as a humanist celebrant… I now pronounce you legally married.”
And what a moment that will be.

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Sand Blending Ceramonies

10/11/2025

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​The Practical Romance of Pouring Granules Into a Jar
When it comes to weddings, there’s no shortage of symbolic gestures. Some couples light candles, others release doves, and a few simply sign paperwork and head straight to the cocktail hour. Somewhere in the middle lies the sand blending ceremony: a ritual where two (or more) people pour different sands into one vessel to symbolize unity.
On paper, it sounds simple: pour sand, admire the result, take photos. In practice, it’s surprisingly thoughtful—and slightly nerve-racking if you’re prone to shaky hands.

Why Sand?
The tradition has roots in various cultures, including Hawaiian and Native American rituals, where sand represented the merging of lands, lives, and families. In today’s weddings, it often replaces the “unity candle.” The practical reason? Sand doesn’t go out when there’s a breeze. Candles may be romantic, but they don’t stand a chance against outdoor ceremonies or overzealous air-conditioning vents.
Sand also has staying power. Once it’s layered into the vase, it sticks around as a keepsake—a permanent reminder of the day, unlike sparklers or champagne, which tend to vanish within minutes.

How It Works
Each partner has a container of sand in a distinct color. During the ceremony, the couple pours their sands into a central vessel, creating layers. Some keep it tidy and stripe-like, others pour together for a blended effect. Both approaches work: one says “we’re organized,” the other says “we’re improvisers, and this still counts.”
For blended families, children can join in too, adding their own colors. The result looks a bit like a collaborative art project you might see in a modern gallery—except this one has fewer critics and more hugs afterward.

A Few Practical Notes
  • Pick colors with contrast. Navy and ivory look elegant; beige and tan may just resemble aquarium filler.
  • Do your homework. Once you have found the colors you like, find the right vessel! Maybe you want something rustic like a canning jar, maybe something specialty made with a heart and the tree of life is more you style. There are lots of options.
  • Mind the pour. Weddings are emotional, but trembling hands can lead to a ceremony that looks more like a beach accident than a symbolic ritual.

What It Represents
At its core, the sand ceremony is a reminder that two distinct people are choosing to build a shared life. Once the grains are in the jar, separating them again would be nearly impossible—just like trying to draw clean lines in a relationship. The new pattern, with all its layers and blends, becomes something unique to the couple.
As the couple pours, the officiant can tell even more of their story, weaving in comments about their different backgrounds, families, and the new life they are building. It can be surprisingly moving. Each grain really does feel symbolic—tiny fragments of two whole lives being tipped into one shared future.

Final Thought
If you want a ritual that’s simple, meaningful, and just a little creative, the sand blending ceremony checks all the boxes. It doesn’t require a choir, a power outlet, or an insurance policy against escaping livestock (yes, that’s a thing). Just a jar, some sand, and the willingness to pour your individual stories into one shared design.

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